The very first question, I think you need to ask yourself is just exactly which side of the cause and effect side of the equation are you on. That’s what I do with my NLP Coaching clients.

Now I see a lot of people for NLP Coaching, and perhaps it you listen to what people say and the way they say it. You will hear a lot of people sound like they are at the effect of something around them that they do not have control over. One of major things you should think about on regular basis is the issue of being at cause or at effect.

The question is which side of the cause and effect equation are you on?

Now there are two sides and this is equation. C<E “Cause causes a certain effect” and the carrot there, means simply that the cause causes that certain effect.

Now if you’re on the cause side of equation, were you say
“yes, I create all the facts that I have in my life” “I create all the effect I have in my world” “I’m responsible” I do not mean that in a bad way, I’m responsible for everything I create in joyous, exciting loving way.

Now on other side of equation, you are on the effects side. If you are at the effect the E side. By the way this is not a comfortable side it also the side where most people in the world are.

This is the popular side, to be on. So if I am on the effect side of the equation. What I’m saying is yes everything that happened to me someone else did. Every thing that has happened to me I didn’t do it myself someone else did it to me. I think this particular motion is very powerful when you look at what you have in your life and why you have it, this is going to be very useful. Especially when you listening to somebody else and how he or she talks.
In our field Richard Bandler said, “who is driving the bus”, and I think this is a really good question. Who’s in charge of the results you produce. Now think about this just a minute. If you are on the cause side of equation, then you’re the one that is going to produce results. If you look at the effects side of equation you will have lots of reasons why you didn’t get what you wanted.

I don’t know if you have thought about this, but the effect side of life is not the best side to be on it’s defiantly not the best side of life. It’s not the most empowering side to be on. I want you to know in a number of years, no matter how many years it is. It will not be the most satisfying side to be on. The fact it’s the most prevalent side it’s the side the most a society is on. In fact, I think the great American philosopher, Bart Simpson summed up the best when he said “no body saw me do it didn’t do it, you can’t prove a thing” The effect side equation is a side of the equation that we like to be on because it is easy to do. But the thing is the effect side of the equation is not very satisfying to be on.

If you can imagine being on the effect side of equation the rest of your life, at age 90 and you never ever had what you in wanted life and you’ve never been able to create everything you want in your life you would not have a satisfying life.
I know you know people who are stuck like this, and they say something like. I would have been a success if it had not been for and then they would name somebody or something.
They will name the tax people, business partner, ex-wife they will name somebody that did it to them. They didn’t do it’s so its not their fault. The fact is, if you move yourself or people around you from effect side of the equation to the cause side of the equation. You are going to change your life and the people around you lives.

So listen to what people say if they are using the effect language like “I’m at the effect of someone, which is either inside me or outside of me, over which I have no control” be aware they are at effect.

For example, if you hear it’s my wife’s fault, or it’s the businesses fault that I work for. In education we have all the disenfranchise learners people who have learning disability. They can’t learn because they have this thing or that thing so they have a particular problem. In business we have a salesperson that can’t sell because economies down, or you have a salesperson that can’t sell because the economy is up or sideways or interest rates are up, who knows!

What my job as a Master Practitioner, and NLP coach and trainer of NLP in any of those cases is to move the client from you effect side of the equation to the cause side of equation.

You know, what happens when we do that. You will never see them again! That by the way is a good thing! You see if the client is pushing the course outside of themselves to the effect side then they are never going to get enough learning or enough information. So they cannot create anything different so they cannot create what they want.

I say to the client as long as you pushing the course outside yourself as long as you’re pushing the cause out there, then you giving up your power your disenfranchising yourself into giving up your power to someone else. I had one guy come to me say. I can’t make enough money, so we did some work together. We change his values and beliefs using Time Line Therapy® and his income doubled. Now the question is who is at cause here? Well he moved from being affected to being at course and is income goes up dramatically. That’s personal empowerment, I don’t know if we create all the bad things that happen to us conscious but I do know and I do believe that the sum total of all our consciousness, plus our unconscious choices leads us to where we are today.

Brad Greentree
www.pecoaching.com.au